You Talkin' to Me?by Theresa Cahill
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Last night while watching stand up comedy on television, we listened to a comedian do a hilarious routine
about wavering in and out while listening to someone else speak. At the time, it was funny - just as a comic
routine is meant to be, but it got me wondering.
How often do we really listen? If your life is anything like what goes on around here, it's safe to say that maybe
you listen with half an ear most of the time, and give your full attention during the portion of time leftover. And
that's with live humans! Imagine trying to do the same online where we "listen" with a whole different set of
"ears." Our fingers do the communicating online, via emails and instant messages. Our eyes become our heart.
The world is a busy place! It seems to constantly run at that "hurry and keep up" pace. So, when it comes time to
really listen, how well are we doing?
Here's an example: Today, my son and I were invited to lunch with my folks. Living in Nevada, and having very slim
pickings on where to eat in Mesquite, we naturally ended up over at one of the casinos and into a long, long buffet
line. Finally, getting seated, getting our food, etc., it was time to eat and chitchat. Somewhere along the line,
my father started in on a discussion about storing graphics online. It was quite complicated, with programs here
and external drives there, and particularly how all the parts worked together. Compound that with the fact that
graphics are not my forte!
Granted, at first I was able to track this conversation fairly well. Then, the noise of the buffet started crowding
in, my son was getting restless, and my mom was commenting. In total frustration, my father said, "Stop! Go on
This brought me up short. I realized I'd lost whatever he'd been trying to tell me more than a few sentences
Now, it's not WHAT we'd been talking about, it was the pure and simple fact that someone had been systematically
speaking to me and I'd just gone zipping off into outer space where it all jumbled together - sort of a short trip
into lala land.
Besides the most obvious, that of being rude, it does present a clear picture. Was I really listening? The
Whether online or off, the key to solid personal and business relationships hinges on our ability to listen and
truly "hear" what the other person is trying to tell us.
"You're a good listener" shouldn't be the surprise that it seems to be nowadays. Though it takes patience to slow
down to the point of hearing, good listening skills come back to us when we're well-rested (a not-so-easy
task working online) and thinking clearly.
So, my advice? Take time for yourself. Take time for your family and friends and cultivate your "art of
Good listeners are few and far between. And, just like any endangered species, we need to do our best to preserve
this dwindling natural resource and ensure it's survival into the new millennium.
About the Author:
A veteran of marketing, Theresa Cahill owns and operates My Wizard Ads, your one-stop spot for ezine advertising,
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